The Divine Feminine
- Heather Wright, R.T.(R)(BD),CHN IPHM
- Feb 16
- 7 min read
Everything you need to know in a digestible session, is here in this blog.
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The "divine feminine" refers to a spiritual concept embodying qualities like intuition, nurturing, compassion, creativity, and receptivity, often associated with the feminine aspect of the divine, transcending gender and present within everyone. Yes everyone, even Men.
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You ever hear of Yin and Yang? Kinda like that.
To keep it simple, just know that these are the most common types of Masculine and Feminine:
Wounded Feminine
Wounded Masculine
Divine Feminine
Divine Masculine
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Divine Feminine represents a life-giving energy connected to creation, connection, and the cycles of nature, often symbolized by motherly figures across different cultures and belief systems.
Traits of the Divine Feminine include kindness, empathy, vulnerability, humility, patience, collaboration, inclusiveness, creativity, wisdom, magic, adaptiveness, love, and intuition.
The Divine Feminine is full of fierce unapologetic power… not power over, but power from within- empowerment.
The Divine Feminine knows when we are connected to this power we know that just by being here our worth is infinite, and she expresses a "firm yet forgiving" energy in all avenues of expression.
Kinda like a "See all the shit, but leave it where it lies", kinda vibe.
KNOW. YOUR. WORTH.
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The Divine Feminine is deeply grounded and lives from intuitive wisdom.
Qualities: Intuition, empathy, nurturing, compassion, creativity, receptivity, emotional depth, vulnerability.
Symbolic representation: Mother Earth, the moon, a chalice, a lush garden.
In other cultures: In Hinduism, "Shakti" represents the divine feminine; in Judaism, "Shekhinah" is considered the feminine aspect of God.
DIVINE MASCULINE
Divine Masculine has no gender, even though "masculine" insinuates that it is male. While partially correct, just like Divine Feminine, it is gender "neutral" as it exists in both men and women.
Divine Masculine is a balancing partner to the Divine Feminine, just like the relationship of the Sun and the Moon.
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Let's say that the Divine Feminine is Mother Earth. She is the power of creativity in a constant revolving motion. Beautiful, adaptive, wise, balanced, loving, inclusive, and insanely powerful.
Now the Divine Masculine, let's call him The Sun, shines on Mother Earth in any condition. Sunlight is a healer, a fuel for vitality. The Earth cannot create and sustain life without the sun. The Sun is not the creator, but it is a vital component of creation. The Sun supports the Earth in all its glory and never stops shining (showing support).
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Divine Masculine possesses energies traditionally associated with masculinity, including qualities like strength, action, leadership, protection, and purpose.
Divine Masculine is often seen as a balancing force alongside the "divine feminine" energy, and can be embodied by anyone regardless of gender identity as it exists in both male and females.
It signifies a healthy expression of masculine traits like taking initiative, setting boundaries, and providing stability, without being overly aggressive, manipulativ or controlling.
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WOUNDED FEMININE
The Wounded Feminine is just how it sounds: WOUNDED.
Existing in both sexes again, but primarily prominent in women, a Wounded Feminine energy is a state where a person's natural feminine qualities are diminished. This is likely the cause of past trauma, unhealthy relationships, and societal conditioning.
How To Know if you have Wounded Feminine energy:
Feeling disconnected from your feminine side
Having low self-esteem
Having difficulty expressing emotions
Struggling to set boundaries
Feeling unsafe in intimacy
Seeing your feminine side as weak
Feeling like you have to be strong and tough
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WOUNDED MASCULINE
By now you've caught on I'm sure.
The Wounded Masculine energy is a term that describes the emotional and psychological scars that both genders (but predominantly men) can experience due to societal expectations about masculinity. It can manifest as aggression, timidity, or emotional suppression.
Causes
Societal expectations and stereotypes
Pressure to be strong, stoic, and emotionally detached
An overemphasis on traits like dominance and independence
Signs
Aggression
Emotional unavailability
Hyper-competitiveness
An overwhelming need for control
Feelings of isolation, inadequacy, and fear
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Are you starting to "See" that there are wounded parts of you?
That's okay, you're not alone.
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Now that you are mindful of it, what are your intentions for addressing it?
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This part can get tricky, and why it's important to work with a coach who can help you through the process.
I will give you a summary of my "golden rules" to begin your healing journey below:
PRESENCE: Be PRESENT with yourself. Close your eyes, take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your mouth. Quickly think of 1 thing you can See, Touch, Taste, Hear, and Smell. This will help you ground and come back to center so you can connect with your mind and body in the current space. I highly recommend you writing down your thoughts, feelings, and emotions for reflection later, especially in early stages. Being present with yourself is nothing more than just giving yourself (and maybe someone else) your undivided attention with no distractions. In other words, a REAL connection, without your mind fleeting in different directions.
ACKNOWLEDGE: Your thoughts, feelings, and emotions. "I am feeling angry."
VALIDATE: Your thoughts, feelings, and emotions. They are yours and valid only to you, but they are not always factual reality. "I am feeling angry, and that's okay. Emotions allow me to connect with myself for healing."
FIND FACTS: For your thoughts, feelings, and emotions. "I am so angry with my partner because I feel like they don't respect me." This is where you find some factual evidence that supports your feelings. Not because we need to find a fact to feel validated, but because we need to find a fact that ties it into a real problem instead of a problem created by our ego that might not really exist. An example of a fact in this scenario would be your partner did the thing you asked them not to do, such as use your credit card without your approval. That's a fact that can be proven by reviewing the credit card statement with them.
You can address it assertively yet calmly by sharing your feelings with the fact: "I feel so angry with you right now, because you used my credit card without asking me. This makes me feel like you don't respect me." Now, you can't control their reaction on the other side, but this can set a calmer tone and open the door for productive conversation versus saying something like "I'm so angry with you for using my card! You clearly don't respect me!"
FORGIVENESS: This is a big one, and one of the hardest for people to do. Forgiveness does not make words or actions justified, but, we must not hold on to anger because anger makes us physically, mentally, and emotionally unwell. You can practice saying "I forgive myself for feeling angry, and now I release anger from my energy (removing the energy tie)." "I forgive my partner for unintentionally causing me to react in anger, and I am choosing to release it."
CONTROL: This is where your power is. You have control of YOU and ONLY YOU. Nobody else has the power to control you unless YOU allow it. Control is a double-edged sword, a "liberating prison" as I call it (read more in the blog post). You have the power to build or destroy yourself with CONTROL, but the choice is always yours.
CHOICES: This is married to Control, but this is another pillar in which power lies for you. Realizing that your life as you know it currently is the sum of all the choices made by you or for you. Now, while you can't control the choices that were made FOR you in your younger years, you can CERTAINLY control your choices in the PRESENT. The PRESENT is all that matters, because what you do presently affects your future.
VULNERABILITY: This is also a tough one for most people, because when you put up walls to protect yourself, you lock yourself out, too. You have to be vulnerable with yourself, and that means being open. Expressing emotion, admitting emotions, acknowledging, and validating. Vulnerability allows you to build authentic relationships, both with yourself and with others. Do NOT be afraid of being vulnerable. Remember, if someone takes advantage of you when you open yourself up, this is is out of your control. You cannot change what they did, or WHY they did it. All you can control is how you RESPOND to it.
BOUNDARIES: Boundaries are vital in a healthy relationship, starting with yourself! If you don't have healthy boundaries to enforce with yourself, then how do you expect to enforce them with others? Boundaries tell people how to treat you, provided that you enforce them.
EXPECTATIONS: Let them go. Remove them from your repertoire. Forget you even know what they are, because they are just giant disappointments wrapped in ego paper. BOUNDARIES will take their place.
PATIENCE: You will need A LOT of patience with yourself. You are HEALING not HEALED. There's no end to healing, it is life-long. It is a way of life.
JOURNALING: This is the best place to purge, validate, and reflect on your thoughts, feelings, and emotions. Also, event recollection, and triggers. Write what you can remember down as soon as you can so it is still fresh and has a higher chance of being factual rather than waiting until your ego has had time to twist things around.
CONNECTION: Connecting with like-minded people on their own healing journey will provide a great sense of support. What I DO NOT mean, is over-sharing all the details of your trauma or struggles with absolutely everyone. Trust your intuition, and share as you feel comfortable.
SELF HELP: Read books such as "The Body Keeps The Score" or "Atomic Habits". Also, any of Carl Jung's essays and published books from his career will help you tremendously.
SEEKING A GUIDE/COACH/COUNSELOR: Having someone to help you connect with yourself on levels you've been avoiding is CRUCIAL. It's like having a personal trainer, but for your spiritual health. We hire trainers to push ourselves, and thats the role of a Coach or Counselor.
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WHEW! That was a lot to take in, wasn't it?
For those of you who are interested in attending my Divine Feminine Healing Circle at YogaNow Pompano Beach Studios, you can expect this list to resurface REGULARLY in those sessions.
They will become engrained in your grey matter, and hopefully become crucial pillars for your daily life.
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I will be eventually offering the Divine Feminine AND Divine Masculine Healing Circles in a LIVE stream, so that you may attend anywhere in the world, although i do prefer to be physically in your energies for these sessions.
I want to help YOU help YOURSELF.
Let's ASCEND in WELLNESS together!
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Love,
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