CONTROL: A liberating prison?

Realizing that you are in control of YOU and ONLY YOU can be both liberating and a potential prison.

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You may be thinking.... What? How is it both positive AND negative?

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Keep reading to have your grey matter stimulated....

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What we attempt to control, controls US.

If you live your life with constant high anxiety and fear, then you are always grasping for that control.

Control of other people, control of situations, control of the future, control of the past, control of you....

. Trying to control everything inside or outside of you will make you miserable and crazy.

Realizing that you control how you think, feel, and act can set you free, so long as you use it to your benefit and not your demise. .

Like everything, there must be boundaries. Boundaries are built and enforced with yourself FIRST, and then enforced with others.

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So, by you controlling your thoughts, words, feelings, and actions, you determine the day you're going to have, and how things affect you.

You can choose how you feel. If you're feeling anxious, you're letting it control you instead of you learning to connect with the emotion, releasing it, so you can regain control.

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When you try to control too much of yourself, it becomes a prison.

. This can manifest as control of what you eat, who you talk to, when you exercise, how you spend money, how you open up to (or shut out) certain people or opportunities.

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When you're always fighting to maintain control, you don't experience life. You miss being present in the moment because you're too busy being distracted by unknowns.

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The best advice that I can give about control is this:

Control your mind, your mouth, your body, and your energy. Everything else is out of reach.

Remain present with yourself at all times, without bringing anxiety from the past or anticipation of the future into it.

See life AS it's happening, and adjust accordingly.

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You must seek balance with the control that you have.

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If you want to be happy, be happy. If you want to angry, be angry... but remember, it's a choice!

Everything you choose directly impacts your life.

So if you're having a bad day, you're choosing to see it as bad, instead of looking at it from a growth perspective, an opportunity for introspection and healing.

Find FACTS to support why it's "Bad"...

"I got up late"- WHY? find a fact, such as you did not set your alarm before going to bed at night. Knowing this fact, you have two choices; 1. Accept it and let it go, or 2. Let your emotions control you.

"someone cut me off in traffic" -Okay, so this happened HOW long ago and you're STILL letting it control you? Breathe, and let it go. Don't let your ego win.

" I just can't get anything right."- Find some examples of mistakes you're making on this day. Use the Three C's of Energy Tax to help you reflect and release. Reflect on where you need to slow down and recenter your focus to fix the mistakes and FORGIVE yourself. Everyone has "bad days" where they feel like everything is just going bonkers, but you will find that if you slow down to connect with yourself, clarity will come.

It's a choice, and you must CHOOSE peace. CHOOSE productive control instead of destructive.

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If you haven't started already, I highly recommend journaling. Use the notes feature on your phone, use a voice note, or an actual journal you keep in your purse, car, or briefcase.

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Externalizing all of the events of a situation, your feelings, thoughts, and emotions can help you reflect and constructively evaluate, producing a more positive outcome.

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Love,

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Control: A Liberating Prison.